About Premature Ejaculation Help

Premature Ejaculation Help is a self-help website for men who struggle with rapid ejaculation.

Premature Ejaculation Help’s Mission

Our two-fold mission is to educate and help people who suffer from premature ejaculation.

Premature Ejaculation Help Education Mission

Education

First, we want to educate people on premature ejaculation. This educational mission does not only target men who suffer from premature ejaculation, but also their partner and the general public. There is a lot of stigmas attached to premature ejaculation. A lot of them originate from misconceptions and myths.

There is no shame at ejaculating quickly. Rapid ejaculation is a natural sexual response. In evolutionary terms, it’s even an advantage. More importantly, rapid ejaculation doesn’t mean you’re bad in bed. Sex is a physical, psychological and emotional experience. Even though premature ejaculation can limit you in the physical aspect, it can also be an opportunity to focus on the psychological and emotional aspects. And when we say limit, we’re really only talking about penetration, and sex is so much more than penetration! Clearly, there’s no reason to be disappointed about how long you last.

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Help

Now, even if sex is not just about penetration, it’s totally fine if you and your partner still wish to experience prolonged intercourse. Even non-penetrative sex (like masturbation or oral) can be more enjoyable when it last more than a couple of seconds.

That’s why our second mission is to help men who suffer from PE to extend the time they last. Even though our primary goal is our sexual satisfaction, we understand that a bit of ejaculatory control can help with that.

So, Premature Ejaculation Help evaluates different treatments for premature ejaculation. We review the scientific literature to identify the options that are supported by convincing data. Regardless of the severity of the issue, between simple exercises and home remedies to professional sex therapy and medication, there are plenty of solutions.

Also, in recent years, there’s a lot of new products that have been developed for premature ejaculation. Our goal is to inform you of the different options and to help you distinguish the legit products backed by evidence from the fraudulent products.

In the media

Premature Ejaculation Help has been quoted or featured in several media including:

Askmen
askmen.com
New York Mag
nymag.com
Live Strong
livestrong.com
Insider
thisisinsider.com

Certified Sex Therapists Testimonials

  • Melissa A. Novak, LCSW, CST

    It is a really impressive site and I think very useful in helping men address premature ejaculation and performance anxieties. I can tell you put a lot into this site and the information here is stellar. I think that your information does a good job highlighting the treatment approach and the basics of therapy. As it stands I would be happy to recommend the site to my patients struggling with PE.

    Melissa A. Novak, LCSW, CST
    Melissa A. Novak, LCSW, CST
    Licensed Clinical Social Worker, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
  • Dr. Shannon Chavez Qureshi, PsyD, CST

    I think it’s a great site and I will refer it to my clients as needed.

    Dr. Shannon Chavez Qureshi, PsyD, CST
    Dr. Shannon Chavez Qureshi, PsyD, CST
    Licensed Clinical Psychologist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
  • Heidi B. Roeder, MS, LMFT, CST

    Wow! I am really impressed by your website offering great tips on those struggling with PE. I reviewed some of it, but it is extensive. I've read enough to refer my patients to view its contents.

    Heidi B. Roeder, MS, LMFT, CST
    Heidi B. Roeder, MS, LMFT, CST
    Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
  • Maegan Megginson, MA, LMFT, LPC, CST

    You have put together a fantastic resource! [...] Solid information but not so much detail that readers become overwhelmed. I will definitely share your website with clients as a resource.

    Maegan Megginson, MA, LMFT, LPC, CST
    Maegan Megginson, MA, LMFT, LPC, CST
    AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
  • Dr. Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST

    Congratulations on your site! It appears to be a fantastic resource, with lots of quality information.

    Dr. Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST
    Dr. Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST
    Licensed Psychotherapist, Sexologist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

Our Values

Premature Ejaculation Help share and promote sex-positive values.

  • Openness & Acceptance (accepting all sexual behaviors, sexual orientations, and genders, without any judgment, as long as those behaviors respect the consent of others.)
  • Empathy (trying the best we could to put ourselves in the shoes of others, trying to understand and share their feelings)
  • Safety (informing and recommending safe sexual behaviors)
  • Education (sharing information backed by data and always disclosing our sources)
  • Healthy Sex Promotion (discussing sex without shame and awkwardness and considering it as a healthy part of life)

The Story Behind Premature Ejaculation Help

Hi! My name is Philippe Côté-Léger, and I’m the founder of Premature Ejaculation Help. I’m a lifelong premature ejaculator. I’ve struggled with rapid ejaculation since my first sexual experiences.

Like most men who wish to overcome this issue, I first turned to Google to get answers to my questions.

Philippe Côté-Léger, Founder of Premature Ejaculation Help

Philippe Côté-Léger, Founder of Premature Ejaculation Help

Based on the results I’ve found on the net, I tried kegels and edging exercises in hope to last longer in bed. It helped a bit, but I still wasn’t able to last more than a couple of seconds with my partner. Even during masturbation, it was impossible for me to control the moment where I come.

So, I invested in professional sex therapy. In my early twenties, I consulted three different certified therapists. I learned a lot about arousal control, and I saw some real progress. However, this progress translated only to masturbation. I was still coming fairly quickly when I had sex with my partner.

During this time, I’ve also stumble upon Premature Ejaculation, from Etiology, from Diagnosis and Treatment, a scientific compendium of different studies on PE. That’s when I decided to dig into the scientific literature.

The more I read, the more I realized that I ignored a lot about this condition. I was surprised at the neurobiological factors behind premature ejaculation. I was sure that rapid ejaculation was mostly a psychological condition. I’ve heard a lot about premature ejaculation’s behavioral explanation. Based on this theory, my rapid ejaculation was a learned reflex that led me to anxiety about sex. It didn’t really fit my situation, but I still thought there was something wrong with me.

So, I believed that I was ejaculating quickly because I failed to control myself. But, by reading the works of scientists like Dr. Marcel Waldinger, I understood that it wasn’t my fault if I had a rapid ejaculation trigger. Based on recent findings, we now suspect lifelong premature ejaculation to be hereditary.

Although they are a lot of psychological risk factors to premature ejaculation, I was relieved to know that I wasn’t to be blamed for my condition. Things like the level of some neurotransmitter or hormones were likely behind my premature ejaculation. Those factors are, at least in part, genetic. I’m probably as much responsible for my early ejaculation as I am for the color of my hair.

But premature ejaculation isn’t all about time. There are three different aspects to premature ejaculation: time, control and satisfaction. You can still come quickly and be satisfied with your sex life. Yes, during my research on premature ejaculation, I learned some tips and techniques to last longer. But more importantly, I’ve learned how to cope with the condition. The more I read about sexuality, the more I found out that premature ejaculation isn’t such a big deal. There’s plenty of ways to have a happy and thriving sex life no matter how long you can last.

I’m now on a low dosage of paroxetine, an SSRI effective for premature ejaculation. With the arousal control techniques that I learned in therapy, and with occasional help from delay products, I’m now satisfied with my sex life. And that’s what I want to share with this website: how to enjoy sexuality.

Monetization of the site

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